I can still recall many years ago, one of my very first weddings as a photographer. The bride and groom were excited to have me photograph their wedding however they neglected to share that the bride’s mother was not.
Actually it wasn’t until their wedding day that the couple revelled their fears to me. Apparently the bride’s mother wanted her brother (keen amateur photographer) to photograph the wedding and not a stranger.
Talk about feeling unwanted! From the moment I arrived, there was no doubt in my mind the mother was unhappy with my presence. Figuring it was too late to problem solve this with the happy couple, I decided to do my best to avoid any confrontation with the mother.
With five minutes before the bride was due to arrive at the church, I walked outside to find a good vantage spot from where I would photograph the cars as they drove down the road. In finding my spot I crouched down ready for the cars arrival. Not long had I squatted did I feel a hard thump on the back of my head. I span around quickly to find the mother standing behind me yelling “move away, I want to take a photograph from this spot”.
Nursing my head with one hand while holding my camera in the other, I responded relatively calmly “Mrs Robinson that is assault and if you do that again I will have no other option than to call the police after this wedding is over”.
I don’t remember ever hearing or seeing the bride’s mother for the rest of the wedding and the bride and groom never mentioned the incident to me after the wedding. I assumed the mother realised she was being a bit neurotic and thought it best not to mention the incident to anyone so not to increase the already strained relationship she had with her daughter.
Weddings bring out the very best and the absolute worst behaviour in people. I think after 17 years of being a wedding photographer, that family are the worst offenders in regards to bad behaviour.
I will write a lot more about dealing with problem family members (and sometimes friends) in future posts.
For now I think you may enjoy a little lighter side of this topic. This video captures a family celebrating a wedding in Russia.
Enjoy with the knowledge your family is not this bad J