Firstly I wanted to say sorry for my little absence on this blog. We were having some internet and computer issues at work. Even though I have other forms of internet access like my black berry, the extra work curriculum; like writing blogs was difficult. For me it felt like I had fallen off the face of the internet world i.e. two weeks without checking facebook, blogs etc is a very long time!
The topic of this post is one I try to bring up in conversation with all my wedding couples before their wedding day. ‘Helping couples not only survive their wedding but thoroughly enjoy it’ is my mission behind all I write for this blog.
Days, weeks, months and even years can go into planning a wedding. Everyone’s day will be different but every couple will desire to enjoy their wedding day.
Unless you are a celebrity, it will be unlikely that you will have experienced total attention from all your family and friends at the same time and for a whole day. For many couples it can be a little overwhelming at times.
I expect that the attention is also one of the major reasons why many couples after their wedding day will say “our wedding day flew by so fast”. Sadly many couples will share with me that the wedding day was one long blur as it went by so fast.
Stop and think about this for just a quick second as I can imagine no one really wants their wedding memories to be a blur.
How can you stop this from being your wedding reality too?
I believe it is about being ‘present’. Being consciously aware of what is happening around you and savouring the experience. By allowing all your senses to be activated.
Listen intently to conversations. Feel the wind in your hair and sun on your face as you walk to the car. Take deep breaths while smelling the fragrance of your wedding bouquet. Taste the texture and flavour of your wedding cake in your mouth.
Of course your sight will be your number one active sense on your day. If however you ignore your other senses you may very well miss out on the full wedding day experience.
By being consciously prepared to allow your senses to take in all that is around you on your wedding day, will help you not only enjoy your wedding day but also help you to remember all the wonderful memories.
Winter is now upon us, which means summer’s harsh light has been replaced with the softest light of the year!! I believe we are lucky in Sydney, Australia to have so much sunlight in winter. Just think of poor Norway being cold and dark the whole time in winter.
Softer light in winter is one reason why I would recommend anyone to think about having their wedding in winter (in Sydney and most of Australia). Softer light is merciful & kind, making it a fantastic light source for wedding photography.
Another reason to consider hosting your wedding in winter is the possible financial savings. Many suppliers (including myself) offer large discounts for ‘off peak’ weddings. ‘Off peak’ being weddings held in the winter months and or held Monday through to Thursday. Friday weddings held outside of winter is still considered by many suppliers to be peak period, as there are so many weddings held on Fridays.
I don’t know……… maybe it is the romantic in me but I love winter weddings. I remember a winter wedding held on the Southern Highlands (about 2 hours south of Sydney) in the country area. Picture the guests gathering around the glow of log fires in this gorgeous restored homestead. Large double glazed windows keeping the warmth in while show casing the roving hills and country side beyond.
Sure this may not be everyone’s dream wedding but if nothing else it is worth considering.
Believe me, I have heard many times these bride’s words “oh no I have forgot to…..” straight after stepping into her dress.
Though you may think this list of ‘forget me nots’ obvious, let me assure you that they are easy to overlook and forget during the excitement of getting ready.
Go to the toilet even if you don’t need to go, as it may be awhile until you get another opportunity (might even be the reception).
Put your deodorant on and allow for drying time.
Eat! Your wedding day is not the time for low blood pressure or passing out due to hunger.
Be sure you are wearing the lingerie you wanted to wear (and not your comfortable yet unattractive attire).
Many brides have found wearing their shoes while putting their dress on, is easier than putting their shoes on later (especially if wearing a larger traditional dress).
Brush your teeth. You may not be keen to do this after your make up is finished but if you intend to brush, it is a good idea to do so before your dress is on.
Though not imperative for the bridesmaids to be dressed before the bride, however I feel it is better for photography.